You read right, I proposed to Jared on the 28th of December back home on my reservation and he said YES!!! The following is a little insight into our relationship, a little message for Jared, and details about our rings and what the symbols on them mean. If you want the story on how I proposed and Jared’s reaction, you’ll have to watch the video on my channel!
When did I know I wanted to ask him to become my husband??? … I’ve been picturing a future with him from this past summer, at least in a more serious manner. I was certain since Thanksgiving. after he took me to officially meet his relatives. 🙂 Did I know that I would be the one to propose? Yes, I’ve always known that I would be the one to ask. 🙂 Jared, if you’re reading this, you know it to be true! ❤
If you are new to following me, Jared and I have been together since June of 2016. We had our first date after connecting on a gay dating app. I promise you nothing naughty happened on our first meet up! This particular app just so happens to have a certain reputation within the gay community, but both of us weren’t looking for a hook up. After two weeks of seeing one another, I knew that I wanted to make our relationship official. We both were able to connect through the subject of music, and with him being from New Mexico, he already had an idea of what my cultural life was like. It would be a little later that I would discover his interest in learning about Hopi culture and art. (which of course I am also a Hopi artist)
With just over a year and a half of being together (and six of those months living together) I am happy to say that there has NEVER been one argument or an episode of drama between us. We both carry our own ways of creativity and while we respect the boundaries of the other’s time of focus while working, we both have come to appreciate, support, and best of all share our own worlds of art with the other. He has shown me a whole new perspective into the world of music (he’s close to receiving his PhD in musical composition) and I have shared with him my passion of activism though YouTube, as well as given him the opportunity to witness various ceremonial dances back home. My family has welcomed him with open arms since day one of meeting him. 🙂
He has taken me to New York for a concert in which he was a featured composer at St. Johns University School of Music. Just a few weeks after meeting me, he has seen me go to VidCon as a featured creator and an invited guest to the YouTube Space LA for a summit on accessibility. He also went with me when I was invited to speak at our Hopi Education summit to share my story of receiving special services for my low vision while attending school on the reservation. We both have performed together in a concert and of course we both are proud daddies of our dog Spike. ❤
Jared, with you I have found the perfect balance in what qualities you have as my partner that make me happy. You make me laugh in a way that nobody has ever appealed to a special sense of humor we have come to share. You always encourage me to go with my gut and to take every moment, even the little ones, of opportunities to have an adventure or to treat ourselves. You support my decisions and do your best to take care of me by doing the little things. I am happy that you love Spike just as much as I do and even more happy that my family also loves you. I am the luckiest man alive to call you my future husband. Thank you for everything, and for somehow finding a way to put up with my stubborn personality. 🙂 I love you!
For those of you wondering and who most likely came from the video, both of our rings are very unique in that they are made by the same Hopi jeweler with cultural symbols on them. Mine is the simpler of the two and has four humps on the band which is a Hopi symbol for a rain cloud. (see above) On both sides of the cloud there are three vertical lines to symbolize rainfall. Being that Hopi is located on the Colorado Plateau in Northeast Arizona, the elevation makes my reservation a very dry climate and the importance of rainfall for survival is the primary focus of prayer in our ceremonies.
Jared’s ring is much more detailed and has five different symbols across the band.
If we start on the left side, we have three similar symbols of which, again represent water. Some would say that they look similar to the special flutes used in the annual Flute Dance, a very special ceremony. Because the symbol is vertical I take it to be a another symbol of a rain cloud. To the right of this you have two corn stalks, a main crop farmed by Hopi men that is the very symbol of Hopi life and culture. Then, perhaps a more familiar native symbol, a depiction of Kokopeli. His story is that he had a hunched back and was a flute player. On his back he carried seeds which he planted wherever he went, playing his flute to help them grow. Just behind him there is a smaller symbol which is a mound with two pahos (eagle prayer feathers) on top. This is a small representation of a prayer shrine where various pahos are gathered from the community or a family. The last design on the far right can be interpreted in various ways. Most geometric designs are used to decorate pottery pieces and depending on the artist, can serve various meanings. I like to see it as sun rays reaching down upon the shrine, carrying prayers to the heavens. We pray to Dawa, our father the Sun.
Jared hasn’t stopped looking at the ring since I placed it on his finger. Again, if you wish to know how and where I proposed, you will have to watch a video which will be uploaded to my channel soon! Thank you to all who have sent their congratulations and best wishes for our future! Your support means everything! I am ready to have many adventures with someone who cares for me and makes me very happy. I love you Jared!